If your anything like me then you will understand how bad it is to meet someone and quickly and easily get attached to that person and to just to get hurt.
If a girl shows the slightest of affection towards me, I almost instantly start to get clingy and start to really like or “fall in love” so to speak. And it’s not like I’m trying hard to find anybody at this moment, I don’t mind waiting. Love is Patients! So why do I start to obsess or latch onto others?
I discovered that I didn’t feel accepted for a long time and when someone accepted me and made me feel understood, I started to fall for them- hard.
If that person obviously does not like you in that way, why are you still chasing them?
We cannot force people to want to be in our lives.
I believe that if you practice self-love and to try and enjoy your own company/solitude, you won’t be so attached to the person.
Instead of chasing, just be still. Work on yourself, explore your passions, go on an adventure and discover who you are.
Keep reminding yourself that and one day, you won’t feel the need to attach so easily.
Another reason could be that you aren’t completely happy with yourself and/or your life. So you feel the need (unknowingly) to depend on someone else to give you happiness, comfort, acceptance, company, excitement, security, etc.
You need to learn to have more CONFIDENCE in yourself and love yourself enough to create a life YOU LOVE living in. You need to change your mindset and yourself so you don’t need anyone to add excitement into your life because you’re lacking it.
It isn’t easy but it’s do-able with a lot of determination and perseverance. Trust yourself. Learn to dismiss those negative thoughts. Make your life into something that is exciting so you won’t NEED someone else. It’s dangerous to feel like you need to have someone in your life. You are gonna be dependent on them for everything and that is just bad news.